Cheers to the bride-to-be

Pre-wedding rituals are a rite of passage. But where do you even start?

Planning a hen’s party or bridal shower is one of a bridesmaid’s most important yet daunting duties, but if you’re worried about the event being thrown in your honour, there is no reason the bride-to-be can’t take the reins.

No matter who is doing the organising, it’s all about celebrating the future bride.

Don’t worry about what the norm is, or the expectations of others; plan an event that is tailored to the guest of honour.

Maybe you’re a hen’s party type of girl – looking forward to a last hurrah – a night out with friends complete with dancing, games and maybe even some entertainment.

Or maybe your days of partying until dawn are long gone and a more relaxing bridal shower is in order.

But why not have both? This is a great way to involve all the important people in your life – from grandma and your future mother-in-law to your nieces and nephews.

You could start the day with a morning tea for all and then finish the day with a night on the town with friends, or host two completely separate events.

Whatever you choose, gather the tribe and put your own spin on it.

bride and groom’s top picks

1. Wine tour: Hire a bus (and a driver) and set out for a day in the vineyards. Pop into a few local wineries for tastings or even a long lunch.
2. Kitchen tea: Host a morning or afternoon tea, ask guests to bring a favourite recipe as a gift and organise some family-friendly games.
3. Dinner and drinks: If you’re after a no-fuss approach, make a booking at a fancy restaurant, sit back and enjoy.
4. Yoga retreat: For the health-conscious, drinking might not be high on the priority list but that doesn’t mean you can’t have fun.
5. Go glamping: There are plenty of places that have jumped on the glamping bandwagon, which is perfect for an old-school sleepover.
6. A cocktail making class: Learn how to mix your own cocktails and enjoy the fruits of your labour later.
7. Pole dancing classes: This idea may not be everyone’s cup of tea but it’s sure to be hilarious.
8. High tea: For a classic alternative organise a high tea complete with sparkling wine and three-tier platters full of scones, sweet treats and finger sandwiches.
9. Pamper day: Head to the day spa or even hire the professionals to come to you for day of relaxation.
10. Flower crown workshop: Find a florist happy to share their trade secrets.  
11. Weekend away: Book a house for a weekend with your gals. Check out the local hot spots or enjoy the festivities indoors.
12. Pop-up picnic: Inside or out, a picnic with homemade goodies or grazing platters is a great relaxing option.